While Divorce Court makes for great TV drama, when you face the possibility of having to divide up the assets and determine custody of the kids, the idea of doing it in court can be daunting.
There is another way.
Collaborative divorce provides a pre-court option for couples looking to separate. Each party is represented by an attorney. These attorneys will help to guide the husband and wife to an amicable (hopefully) resolution concerning the children, property, and other assets. Too often, divorces are described as "messy." The goal of collaboration is to keep the process open, share all information, and find a way the parties to walk away from the marriage without dragging each other - and the children - through protracted and hostile court proceedings. Collaborative divorce attorneys do not seek a winner and a loser, but a solution.
Collaborative divorce does not preclude the possibility of taking the action to court. If the collaborative efforts break down, both parties can retain new counsel and take the matter to family court.
The American Bar Association provides a quick overview of collaborative divorce
here.
"Divorce Without Dishonor" blog provides another reason to look at collaborative divorce
here. Judges are people, too. Taking it to court brings another party into the decision making process, possibly complicating things.
If you are interested in pursuing a collaborative divorce, call an attorney or your local bar association. If that attorney can not handle it for you, they will know someone who can.